Raise
high-agency kids
for a world of AI and robotics, where knowledge is cheap and agency wins.
Your family’s data is yours. We don’t sell it, and we don’t run ads.
The world went algorithmic,
and the ground moved under our families.
Our devices optimized for our time, and we gave it to them. AI has made knowledge cheap, which is what our schools still focus on.
Family time needs an upgrade to beat the algorithms.
By the time your kids are 18…
they should not need you anymore (but still want to spend time with you). Each thing your kids learn to do for themselves moves them toward it, and the jobs you do for them now are the easiest place to start.
Routines
Hand housework over to the kids by setting up routines and getting them in the routine of taking their nightly tally. Pay them weekly for their completed work. Give them a chance to feel proud of their earnings.
Councils
Coach your kids in the same weekly personal council where you pay them for completed housework. Praise their efforts, listen to their thoughts, train them with their responsibilities, and coach them on their missions.
Missions
A life of meaning requires the completion of missions. Continually raise the bar of what you’re each capable of. Follow the YouTube channel for inspiration.
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Parenting for the 21st Century
The Patrol Family Playbook
Definition
Patrol [puh-trohl]
a group of people with individual responsibilities and a common mission.
Mnemonic
- P
- Parent-Led
- A
- Agency-Oriented
- T
- Targets Tied to Missions
- R
- Rhythmic Approach
- O
- Orienting Over Ordering
- L
- Lasting Memories
One loop, run on repeat
- 1
The Nightly Tally — seconds
Nightly, every member: tally routine completion and mission progress, and drop in anything worth discussing at the next family council.
- 2
The Parent Council — ~10 min
Run one family with your spouse instead of two overlapping households: review the week, plan each kid’s council, set the family council agenda.
- 3
Personal Councils — ~5 min each
One on one with each kid: chores get paid, missions get discussed, next week gets inspired.
- 4
The Family Council — ~20 min
The whole patrol: camaraderie first, review the family’s progress, align on the coming week’s missions. Kids bring items, and items get decided.
The loop is the engine. Routines and missions are what it drives.
Who’s Behind This
Join the Free Pilot
I’m Jordan. I have four kids, and I built this system for them.
The pilot is free: a 30-minute call where I set up your account and your first routine, the public group, and I read every feedback note myself.
It’s for parents who’d rather run something than read about it. All I ask back is honest feedback.
Your family’s data is yours. We don’t sell it, and we don’t run ads.
Turn family life into a shared adventure.
See the Patrol Family Playbook demonstrated.
How to Run a Family Council (The Agenda Writes Itself)